Etiquette experts suggest thoughtful host gifts for Thanksgiving

Bringing a gift to a Thanksgiving host is a thoughtful gesture but should never feel like an obligation, etiquette experts say.

"It's never an obligation," said Ann Elizabeth Burnett, a protocol expert in Vancouver known as Elizabeth Etiquette. "No one should feel pressured, certainly not to bring something expensive."

Choosing the right gift can be tricky, as traditional offerings like wine or chocolate may not suit hosts who are abstaining from alcohol or watching their diet.

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"If you know your host is watching what they eat, don't bring chocolates," Burnett said. "If you know someone is abstaining from alcohol, don't bring wine."

Iva Musilek, founder of the Edmonton etiquette consultancy Courtesy Matters, warns that edible gifts should not be expected to be served at the meal.

"If you bring food or wine, do not expect your host to serve either that evening," Musilek said. "The host has spent time preparing a menu for the evening, and the gift may not fit the plan for the meal."

Musilek says flowers are a safe choice, especially if brought already arranged in a vase.

"It is always better to bring the flowers in a vase, already arranged," she said. "Sending your host to the basement to look for a vase of the right size while guests are arriving is not ideal."

Burnett suggests considering outdoor plants, too.

"Many people take pride in creating a warm welcome at their front entrance or making their patio feel cozy and inviting," she said. "A flowering outdoor plant in beautiful autumn colours can bring warmth to these spaces and be enjoyed after the celebration has ended."

Aside from potted mums, Burnett likes to gift what she calls a "me time package" with one or two magazines, "some artisanal biscuits or other special treat, nice tea or coffee, all to the host's taste."

Other gift ideas include items for future gatherings, such as small bowls, cocktail or linen napkins, candles, soaps or decorative cutting boards.

"If the host has children, a game, a box of Lego to entertain them before dinner could be very thoughtful," Musilek said.

For presentation, Ottawa-area etiquette expert Julie Blais Comeau recommends wrapping a gift in a colourful seasonal tea towel.

"Skip traditional paper and wrap your gift in a colourful seasonal tea towel," Blais Comeau said. "It becomes part of the gift, and everyone can use a fresh one."

Handwritten thank-you notes sent after the event can also be meaningful.

"A host gift says thank you when you arrive," Blais Comeau said. "A note afterward says, 'I've continued to think about your hospitality.' In many ways, that can be even more meaningful."

Specific Canadian-made suggestions include the Party Charades game from Victoria's Outset Media, which features Canadian cultural references.

Linen tea towels from Toronto's Maison-Basque, sewn in Canada with French-woven linens, can serve as gift wrap or a gift itself.

Atelier La Louve in Val David produces a palm-sized handmade ceramic Love Bowl, shaped like a heart, for serving snacks.

Vibrant, long-lasting mums are ideal as they often come prepotted.

Newfoundland Tea Company's Front Porch herbal tea blend offers a relaxed vibe, while a small cherry charcuterie board from Nova Scotia's Weatherhead Wood Working is attractive and space-saving.

With files from The Globe and Mail